I first heard this term on the 6 month Spiritual Development Program that I have just finished based on Sufi principles. It spoke to me and I found there was a book about it — Spiritual Bypassing: When Spirituality Disconnects Us from What Really Matters.
Definition
The term basically means that we avoid dealing with our painful feelings with the use of spiritual practises or beliefs.
I have used Spiritual Bypassing, not consciously, I’ve taken that attitude of telling people that something might be their karma, or to not to take something personally, because it’s the other person’s issue.
Distancing
It all might be true, but, in that moment, it pushes people away, rather than connects them, because what is required in that moment is a sense of bonding, or compassion. Someone might be in pain and needs a hand, not a theory.
We all want to know we aren’t alone, and its far nicer to say you are sorry for something happening to someone rather than analysing why it happened to them.
THE LOVE FILES: Strengthening Boundaries
NO is such an empowering word!
You may have heard the word boundaries and thought yours were good but if you have found yourself feeling you are put upon within a relationship or by others in general then you need to take another look at your boundaries.
Do you find it easy to say no and mean it?
Try it. The next time you do not want to do something and you know that if you say yes you will feel put upon and unhappy that you have done so, try saying no.
It may be difficult at first but if you keep practising saying “no” to things you do not want to do it will get easier and the payoffs to you to may be great.
The reason for this is twofold.
Firstly, you can gauge the other person’s reaction to you saying no and see how far they will try to push you to get you to do what they want. Secondly, it gives you a sense of empowerment that you can use the “no” word. The more you use it and hear yourself using it the easier it becomes to say “No”.
Psychic Addiction
A lot has been written on psychic addiction and I think still more needs to be written! Psychic addiction has become a real problem for a lot of people.
It is not uncommon for someone to loose thousands of dollars and not get an accurate reading. Or even getting an accurate reading and still needing more. Like any addiction, the real underlying issue has nothing to do with a psychic reading.
The drug addict needs those drugs in order to not have to deal with emotional turmoil and uses the drugs to temporarily numb the emotional problems that are going on in their life.
Someone that is addicted to psychic readings is no different. Someone that has a psychic addiction is looking for a way to pacify fears.
Like any addiction, it starts off slowly. The most common question I see in relationship to psychic addiction is, “Are they coming back into my life” so we will work with this one. So the first time someone calls and asks this question, and especially if they are hurting from the pain of a break up, they will be in a state of fear, a state of emotional turmoil.