THE LOVE FILES: Strengthening Boundaries

Strengthening Boundaries

NO is such an empowering word!

You may have heard the word boundaries and thought yours were good but if you have found yourself feeling you are put upon within a relationship or by others in general then you need to take another look at your boundaries.

Do you find it easy to say no and mean it?

Try it. Next time you do not want to do something and you know that if you say yes you will feel put upon and unhappy that you have done so try saying no. It may be difficult at first but if you keep practising saying “no” to things you do not want to do it will get easier and the pay offs to you to may be great.

The reason for this is twofold.

Firstly, you can gauge the other person’s reaction to you saying no and see how far they will try to push you to get you to do what they want. Secondly, it gives you a sense of empowerment that you can use the “no” word. The more you use it and hear yourself using it the easier it becomes to say “No”.

It can also sound easier to your ears if you say to yourself “no more” when you are by yourself as this will put you in a state of thinking that you are not taking any more on from others and it helps to sound like you have put an underline or a full stop after the no.

It gets you back into your own life as you are not holding inner anger at why you are doing something you don’t want to do but rather you are taking some of your own power back and saying to yourself “no more”.

By doing this it frees up your own time and energy to get back to who really matters… you!




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