When it comes to the subject of Soulmates, there is a lot of misinformation being passed around. Dating sites use the term in a way that leads us to think that if we just find this one special person, we will get our “happily ever after.”
Many people think that a Soulmate is ONE person in the world that you are destined to meet, and that your happiness depends upon finding this person.
There are elements of truth in both of these views. But its very far from being that simple.
Soul Connections are about growth. The Universe put us here to grow, learn and evolve. To reach transcendence. To find wisdom. To become the very best version
It’s a bit like school. You may not enjoy the learning process, but in order to progress through life and be successful you need an education.
We all know that communication is a vital part of every relationship, but do you really know the meaning of the word, communication.
According to the Merriam Webster Dictionary, the correct meaning of communications is: “the act or process of using words, sounds, signs, or behaviors to express or exchange information or to express your ideas, thoughts, feelings, etc., to someone else”.
What is doesn’t mean is just talking or texting to each other.
Most couples will tell you they talk to each other, but I have to wonder how many actually listen, hear or understand what the other person is trying to convey.
There are many ways to communicate, some good and some bad. Do you know the difference? The best way form of communication is always face to face, but even that can fail if you aren’t really listening, hearing or just paying attention.
Let’s take a look at some things that might hinder or cause a lack of communication.
When seeking psychic advice it is often because you want to feel better.
Life is hard, perhaps a relationship has taken a turn for the worse, and you just want to stop hurting. The important thing to focus on here is how you change things in the LONG term and create a better future.
Sometimes when you are hurt and upset all you want to do is feel better RIGHT NOW, so you seek out short term fixes and instant reassurance.
This will keep you going for a while but until you look at core issues, patterns that repeat, and the reasons why you always seem to end up back in the same place, then all you are getting is a quick (and expensive), fix.
A bandaid over a huge gaping wound.
One of the questions I get asked most frequently as a psychic is “When will I meet my soul mate?”
The term “soul mate” is often used interchangeably with “other half” but they’re essentially the same thing.
The question of when is often followed by how (as in under what circumstances) when it really should be more along the lines of “What changes can I make in myself to become the best version of me so that I can attract the right partner into my life?”
Let’s face it, most of us are looking for someone to share our lives with.
And for those of us who haven’t yet found that perfect someone, the desire to do so can become the strongest motivating factor in our lives.
But if motivation alone were enough to create happily-ever-afters, none of us would ever have to worry about finding our other halves.
The philosophies and knowledge that psychics and all metaphysical teachers embrace, are all something we as individuals come to through study and what feels right or what has proven out to us in reality on a personal basis.
The lessons never end.
I am of the philosophy that Soul Mates are people with Soul Contracts.
The soul contracts are soul agreements that were made together between both souls before you and the other soul ever came to this world.
These Soul Contracts make the two individuals Soul Mates. I believe that those soul contracts are to be fulfilled, as they are what you have chosen together, before you came to this lifetime.
Clients often ask me ‘Is this my soul mate?’
The problem with that question is that it always depends on your definition of ‘soul mate’.
The word itself is possibly one of the most misused terms in the English language.
The next problem comes when the energetic connection is confirmed and the client assumes that as long as they wait, this person will come to them and be all that they ever wanted, because thats what soul mates do right?
The media adds to this by implying that your ‘soul mate’ is not only someone that you are destined to spend the rest of your life with, but that you should actively seek them out and if you find them, you should hold on for dear life no matter how badly you are treated.
Karmic Soulmates are those who have shared at least one previous incarnation together that ended on a sour note.
They meet up with each other again in a subsequent lifetime in order to complete any past lessons/rectify any residual karma, which then affords them the opportunity to attain closure and move on.
Unfortunately, they usually end up accruing more adverse karma in the process. It’s possible for Karmic Soulmates to progress to the next level of the union, instead of separating, if both parties desire this and apply mutual effort.
However, usually at least one partner deviates from this path over time because to conquer all of these goals in a singular lifetime and then to still have sufficient love/desire to be with the alternate partner proves too daunting; usually resulting in indecision, stagnation, and inability to commit.