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Staying True To Yourself In A Relationship

being your true self in relationships

Changing you or allowing someone else to control you means you are not staying true to yourself in a relationship.

When I say relationship, this can not only mean a love relationship but also friends and family. You are either changing yourself to fit the relationship or allowing someone else to change you to the person they want you to be, not the real you.

This doesn’t mean the being on your best behavior on a first date or just meeting someone.

What I mean here is you either change your whole persona or allowing someone else to control what you do, say, wear and the list goes on until you are not the real you.

Think back to your days in middle school or high school. You wanted to fit in to a certain clique of people so you start dressing like them, acting different and sometimes even turning your back on childhood friends because they didn’t change to fit in to your new crowd.

True Love Or Just In Love With The Idea Of Love

Christmas, New Years, Valentine’s Day are all holidays that seem to bring out the marriage proposals. Now with those holidays in our rear view mirror, it’s time to take the next step and get caught up in the frenzy of wedding planning, or is it?

Maybe I watch too many Life Time movies but it seems to me that not all the proposals were well thought out before they were made. In olden days, the prospective groom went to the father of the prospective bride to ask her hand in marriage before he actually proposed. Some families still have that tradition but for most it has gone by the way side. Fast forward about twenty years, the couple fall in love, you buy the ring and propose.

What I’m seeing more and more today are the way out there, over the top wedding proposals and I just can’t help but ask myself, are they saying yes because they really want to get married. From the looks on some of their faces it brings me to the conclusion they are totally caught off guard in front of a lot of people and they don’t want to embarrass themselves or the prospective groom by saying no.

A Relationship With Your Ex, Good or Bad Idea

It’s hard being single for the holidays, but it seems the hardest time to be alone is Valentine’s Day. That’s usually the time most people start rethinking if they should have broken up with their partner and if they should take them back. Is trying to go back to a relationship with your ex really a good idea?

Let me just say, instead of thinking about how you can get your ex back, you might want to remember why they are an ex.

If they cheated on you before, chances are really good they will cheat again. Was the relationship abusive, either physically or mentally, it won’t change? Time doesn’t really heal all wounds, it just sometimes makes us forget just how bad it hurt because we are lonely.

Often people will remember only the good times but you have to also remember why the relationship didn’t work.

Do you want to be in a relationship, no matter how bad, just so you have someone in your life? Will you take back your ex just because you don’t want to be alone? Sadly, that seems to be two of the main reasons I hear all the time from people, especially around Valentine’s Day.