One of the most popular questions a psychic gets asked is, “Should I wait or move on?” and all its variations; should I wait on that guy who hasn’t asked me out, should I wait for so-and-so to contact me, should I wait for my ex to come back?
While the analysis of each situation is different and complex, there are some basic things everyone should know about the energy of waiting and moving on, and this information is something that can be applied to ANY situation.
Should I Wait or Move on? Why We Block The Answer
When we feel like our efforts and existence are not netting the results we most desire, it’s only natural to wonder whether we should even bother going down the same path.
Most of the time, when we ask this question what we really want to know is if if things could get better!
Have you ever been totally fed up with a situation and convinced that you need to move on only to be confused by self doubts or opposite thoughts later on? Have you ever been afraid to even really CONSIDER moving on?
Why does this happen? Whether we’re merely pondering moving on, or whether we think we’re ready to move on, the very nature of the words “move on” makes us think of endings, defeat, and loss and it makes us unconsciously want to hold on even more rather than face those scary feelings of termination and change.
How to Get Over a Broken Heart
If your partner broke up with you and your heart feels like a sledgehammer tore it apart, you have one of two choices:
You can either wallow in the pain of it all and can carry on with your negative thoughts and berate yourself, thus making yourself MORE miserable; OR you can do something completely different and choose to get over him/her as quickly as possible.
During the first few days and even the first few weeks of losing the one you loved, you should first allow yourself to go through the various stages of the grieving process.
It is good to know what these stages are so you can cut through the chase, by experiencing them and getting over it.
Ask a Psychic: Long Distance Love
This week’s question comes from a woman who’s developed a love connection a man she’s been been friends with (online) with for the past two years.
Both of them were involved with other people at the onset of their friendship: she was married and he was involved in a long term committed relationship. But over time as their other relationships ended, they’ve grown closer and now admit to having much stronger feelings for one another.
Our client, whom we will call Candice, says she feels a little silly getting so emotionally invested in someone she’s never met in person, although they do speak on the phone and text or Skype daily. They’ve also begun to openly express feelings for one another.
Her love interest (we’ll call him Terrell) has been an incredibly support for her during the fallout of her marriage and throughout her divorce and she returned the favor once his own relationship ended several months later.
Five Ways to Bring Love Back to Valentine’s Day
Have you ever wondered how to bring love back to Valentine’s Day?
When I was a kid, I loved Valentine’s Day – the whimsical colours, the chalky-message candy hearts, the box filled with silly cards from all my classmates… but as an adult, I began to buy into Valentine’s Day pressure. Was I getting the right, most thoughtful gift from my sweetie? Did he have something special planned for dinner or flowers?
I really agonized about these things and they become expectations that lead to what expectations always lead to: disappointment. Every year therapists, psychics and astrologers hear from people who are on the brink of desolation because they are still pining for someone who left their life, or because they feel alone and unloved, or because their loved one isn’t meeting their expectations.
How did something that’s supposed to be fun get so dark? Ever since a certain famous card manufacturer started mass producing Valentine cards in 1913 in Kansas City, the world has had an arbitrary way to measure the presence and absence of love. And because comparison takes us away from what we HAVE, it’s given us a way to compare our lives to a story of what should be. The right ring, the right dinner, the right romantic setting, the right person. All that pressure adds up to disappointing bad dates, lonely nights, and worse. How do we stop this madness?
Here are Five Ways to bring LOVE back to Valentine’s day:
Communication, A Vital Part of Every Relationship
We all know that communication is a vital part of every relationship, but do you really know the meaning of the word, communication.
According to the Merriam Webster Dictionary, the correct meaning of communications is: “the act or process of using words, sounds, signs, or behaviors to express or exchange information or to express your ideas, thoughts, feelings, etc., to someone else”.
What is doesn’t mean is just talking or texting to each other.
Most couples will tell you they talk to each other, but I have to wonder how many actually listen, hear or understand what the other person is trying to convey.
There are many ways to communicate, some good and some bad. Do you know the difference? The best way form of communication is always face to face, but even that can fail if you aren’t really listening, hearing or just paying attention.
Let’s take a look at some things that might hinder or cause a lack of communication.
What You Never Learned About Boundaries
Setting boundaries can be the most important thing you ever harness to transform your relationships and life … especially when it comes to dating and relationships. True, balanced boundaries are often misunderstood; they’re not about building an impenetrable wall of barbed wire, but about having positive, open energy that keeps life flowing.
Imagine how an ocean flows and thrives in its space and boundaries, but a stagnant rain puddle that doesn’t receive new energy is always evaporating, having increasingly poor boundaries and edges. If you were a fish, which would you prefer to live in? In the ocean you can define your turf, swim and explore and have the resources you need -but in a puddle you don’t have that luxury, you’re always trying hard, gasping for what you need and feverishly trying to stay protected as the puddle shrinks.
5 Ways to Stop Being “The Other Woman”
It all starts innocently enough. At first you may share glances of humor, secretly laughing at a co-worker or work environment. Then small conversations, or quips, and jokes turn into long and serious conversations. Then you can’t wait for work to start so you can see each other again. Slowly the conversations turn into caresses, and then passionate moments in the break room or long lunches at a motel room. The connection is unbelievable because you seem to be in sync at every moment. All seems well, you feel you finally found your soulmate after a long search, except for one thing, he is married.
The Invisible Man. Part 5 of 12:
This is part 5 in “The Invisible Man” series with a question that comes from a woman we call Annie. Annie was stuck at the cross-roads for many years regarding a relationship break-up that she never saw coming…
Annie is a long time client of mine, and she asked me to go into detail about a man she was engaged to in the past. We will call this man James Bond…
Annie thought she knew James Bond inside and out, but when the relationship ended, unexpectedly and without closure, she realized she didn’t know him like she thought she did!
She had a hard time letting him go and said she should’ve been much further by now, but she is still twisted and stuck in a rut, still looking backwards instead of looking forwards!
We Had a Fight, Can I Fix This?
“My boyfriend and I had a terrible fight. I’m so sick of this. Is it over?”
We think of fights as horrible, destructive agents of relationship doom, and we want to avoid them at all costs. From our culture, to our personal histories, we learn arguments are a thing to fear. But what if we could see arguments as both normal and even helpful? Is there an alternative to arguments or a way to create harmony after one has already begun?
What is an argument REALLY?
Arguments are all unique combinations of different energies: misunderstandings, miscommunications, trapped emotions, or projections of past events. But they are also an alarm system that show us where something unhealthy or unworkable has been existing in our relationship in the same way that pain alerts our brain that we’ve touched a hot pot. Arguments highlight whatever we have been afraid or unable to clearly communicate in other ways.
The Invisible Man. Part 4 of 12:
This is part 4 in “The Invisible Man” series with a question that comes from a woman we call Annie. Annie was stuck at the cross-roads for many years regarding a relationship break-up that she never saw coming…
Annie is a long time client of mine, and she asked me to go into detail about a man she was engaged to in the past. We will call this man James Bond…
Annie thought she knew James Bond inside and out, but when the relationship ended, unexpectedly and without closure, she realized she didn’t know him like she thought she did!
She had a hard time letting him go and said she should’ve been much further by now, but she is still twisted and stuck in a rut, still looking backwards instead of looking forwards!
She asked me to pull his natal birth chart and take a look at his personality to understand why he would just disappear, unexpectedly, and leave her without closure?
Soulmate vs Lifemate part 3 (transcribed group session with Malia)
The following is the transcribed version of a recorded Empath Group session with Malia via www.Empath-Malia.com. Soulmate vs Lifemate: What is a soulmate and what is a lifemate?
Introduction to soulmate vs lifemate conversation:
For the sake of clarity, a reading/session with me (Malia) is an interpretation of visual (clairvoyant) and audio (clairaudient) information, along with physically felt sensations (empathic and clairsentient) information. There are times you hear me say “they are saying.” There are times I am describing what I am seeing. Also, there are times I am feeling my way through a question. I do try to make it clear how the information comes through, but it is not always as easy as it might seem to switch gears and stop tuning in so that I might tell you. As well, there are times I am interpreting multiple “frequencies” (you might compare this experience to having a conversation with multiple guides and then relaying that information to you, the audience). Thank you for your presence in this experience with me 🙂
Multiple Marriages in the Natal Chart
Can your natal chart show that you may have multiple marriages? What are the indicators, and what will be activated at the time you get married again? This can be seen in your chart!
I wrote an article at the beginning of the year outlining Jennifer Aniston’s chart and what was going when she married Brad Pitt. She has recently remarried, so it should be interesting to see if she had indications again that she would marry.