One of the biggest questions that we get as psychics is “does he/she want this relationship?”
I must hear this question about a dozen times a day, in various forms.
So I’m going to do a quick post here to try to answer that question to an extent, at least from a psychic perspective.
Very often I find that couples get past the honeymoon phase of a relationship, with no clear clue or plan of how to consolidate their relationship or work on communication.
For a very ‘connected’ generation, in terms of personal relationships we are very isolated and I find that the age group of late teens to late twenties, have not really learned interpersonal skills the way earlier generations have in the past.
Instant gratification both with technology, and media has conditioned us to ‘expect,’ hollywood relationships without any real effort, on our parts
So here are some simple tips to get the relationship that you really want to have rather than simply continuing to make the same mistakes over and over again.
1. Communication:
This is the biggest one that I see in couples, they meet, fall in love etc and are maybe together for a number of years, but when the relationship starts to falter, they realise that they don’t know the person they are with, and never really did and the blame game starts.
Very often this is made worse by the fact that people are conditioned, women especially (sorry ladies) that they should be passive and let the guy do all the ‘work’. In the real world it doesn’t work that way.
So what is required is to talk to one another, find common ground, whether that is a shared interest or similar career paths. Communication is in my opinion, having done over twenty five years as a psychic advisor, one of the main, building blocks of any relationship.
2. Trust:
Another big issue I find here, is that very often a negative pattern is set up and we find people bouncing from one unsuitable relationship to another, often over a course of years, and for some it’s like they are trying to ‘fix’ a bad relationship from their past by proxy through other people, without looking at the fundamental reasons for why they have trust issues.
What I suggest to clients, is to first and foremost take a long hard look at their own behaviour before automatically blaming their partner.
Very often I find that the partner they are currently with has in fact gone out of their way to try to show that they can trusted only to be accused on a frequent basis of not being faithful or honest. This leads to a great deal of resentment which often leads to quite spectacular break ups, with blame being thrown about and nothing constructive being resolved for either party.
3. Intimacy:
Now this is also a big one. Without the foundation of the first two, ie trust and communication, what I find is that clients very quickly start to question the intimacy of the relationship. One of the big questions here is: “are they thinking about someone else while we’re doing it?” That I find is a very difficult question to answer because clients don’t really want to hear the answer, they are happier allowing themselves to remain in the same negative patterns and content to pass the buck onto others, rather than take responsibility for their own actions.
As always questions and comments on these posts are appreciated, and I will try to answer them as best I can.
This article first appeared on my blog: David James Psychic Wisdom
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