Senior dating, where do you begin is a good question and one I hear often from my clients looking to get back out there. Dating has changed so much since most of us seniors were even thinking about it, let alone having to start all over again. Personally for me, I was 50 when I got remarried and to be honest, I wasn’t looking to date or get married at the time. Actually, I had just told my friend I was tired of the dating thing and would probably just get a puppy to keep me company.
It can really be hard to even know where to begin, especially if you were married for many years or in a long term relationship. Divorce, passing of a spouse or life-long partner, whatever the reason, it doesn’t get easier. It’s especially hard if you were in an abusive marriage or relationship, or your partner cheated. It takes a lot for you to trust again. It’s not any easier if you were in a loving marriage or relationship and your partner passed away. I’ve heard many widows and widowers say they feel like they would be cheating if they were to get into dating or even remarried. Your friends and family keep telling you to get back out there but they have no idea you don’t even know how or where to begin.
Tarot Card of the Week: June 27 – July 3, 2016
The Hierophant is the fifth card of the Major Arcana. This card, from the traditional Rider Waite Tarot, depicts a stoic man on a throne between two pillars.
He is wearing a crown, with one hand raised as if giving a blessing. In the other hand is a staff, sometimes referred to as a cross or holy trinity. At his feet appear to be two people seeking his wisdom or blessing.
According to the dictionary, the word Hierophant comes from the Greek, meaning an official expounder of rites of worship and sacrifice. In tarot, he is often referred to as The Pope, the Magnus of Eternal Rulership and is associated with Taurus.
It may seem odd the Hierophant represents Taurus the bull since it is often represented by a holy man. However, since his main purpose is for balance and grounding, it makes more sense.
Afterlife, is it just something we want to believe or does it really exist?
For some people it is a given, they feel their loved ones have passed over to a beautiful place where their spirit is set free. For others, since they can’t really see it, they don’t believe it exists.
Of course, then there are those that would just say we die, that’s the end.
While some say there is scientific proof, others claim there is no way it can be proved.
We all know that communication is a vital part of every relationship, but do you really know the meaning of the word, communication.
According to the Merriam Webster Dictionary, the correct meaning of communications is: “the act or process of using words, sounds, signs, or behaviors to express or exchange information or to express your ideas, thoughts, feelings, etc., to someone else”.
What is doesn’t mean is just talking or texting to each other.
Most couples will tell you they talk to each other, but I have to wonder how many actually listen, hear or understand what the other person is trying to convey.
There are many ways to communicate, some good and some bad. Do you know the difference? The best way form of communication is always face to face, but even that can fail if you aren’t really listening, hearing or just paying attention.
Let’s take a look at some things that might hinder or cause a lack of communication.
Setting boundaries is necessary in both personal and business relationships. It can be hard to set boundaries but if you don’t, after a while it can take a toll on your own personal happiness.
How many times have you heard someone say they feel as though they are being taken for granted?
This may be a problem you have in your own life. It happens to many people in both their personal and business lives, but there is a solution and you can begin to turn it around by setting boundaries.
This has always been very hard for me to do myself, and the root of it for me is because I don’t like telling people no. While that’s great for those that know this about me, it really has caused me a lot of stress in both the personal and business areas of my life. I was able to make many changes by setting boundaries in my business practices, but am still a work in progress on setting boundaries in my personal life.
The card for this week, Temperance, is from The Housewives Tarot by Paul Kepple and Jude Buffman. It is the number 14 card in the Major Arcana. Its ruling sign is Sagittarius, would signify the letter S and tells us patience, adaption, tempering balance or bringing together of two opposites.
Let’s take a look at the imagery of this card, which brings all the ingredients into the sturdy mixer to combine together for the balance we need. Add equal parts of joy and sorrow, anger and forgiveness, justice and compassion. Mix on high for two minutes until well blended.
Temperance is a delicious and healthy combination of opposite sides of the spectrum – a heaping helping of compromise or cooperation in marriage, relationships or partnerships. Spoon this mixture into every aspect of your life.
This card can either mean you need to find balance within yourself, or are working to achieve the balance you need. It’s all about working through whatever issues may be causing you to feel unbalanced.
Relax is easy to say, but often very hard to do.
I hear it all the time, you just need to relax. What they don’t tell me is how to go about it. Oh sure, they say just breathe, do yoga or meditate, but how do I shut off my mind so I can actually do any of these things.
While I just usually say thanks for the advice and then go off and figure out my own way to relax, I didn’t take into account how many other people are just like me. This was actually brought to my attention recently by one of my favorite personal clients.
She is the type of client that realizes a reading can’t fix things for her, but instead guide her through the process. She has graciously allowed me to share her story with you, but for confidentiality, I will be calling her Miss M.