You Are Not Alone – Flame Families
Last year I did a course in Spiritual Response Therapy, and one of the things I learned on the course, in Robert E Detzler’s book, Soul Re-Creation: Developing Your Cosmic Potential is that we are the fire of God’s creation, and that flame, which is our Soul Family, resembles a flower with petals.
Each petal has two souls, male and female, and all the petals together form a flame family. In one petal, we have our twin flame who is closer to us than other soul flame mates in the flower system.
Two mornings ago when I got up, it was a Sufi Spiritual Retreat day for me, I went to the kitchen to make breakfast, I threw something in the rubbish bin and I saw yogurt my daughter-in-law had thrown out and I burst out crying.
At first I was angry that she hadn’t asked anyone if they wanted it, but as I calmed down I realised it was at its best by date and no one in the house would have eaten it anyway.
I realised that she was very generous with food and so this wasn’t even about her. So what was it about?
We’re now in the silly season, where there are a lot of obligations and commitments. So there’s lots of anxiety around saying “Yes” and “No”.
We have a number of underlying beliefs around saying No and Yes. The martyr in us will say Yes to everyone and everything, feeling burnt out, sick and exhausted at the end. They equate saying Yes with approval seeking and love.
So it may not even be the commitment they are saying yes to, but the approval seeking. There may also be the belief that if they don’t say Yes they will be abandoned and left out.
One of the top questions I get asked as an Intuitive is from women in relationships with men who don’t love them back, or don’t treat them well. I get this question from men too.
Deep down they know they deserve better treatment, or a reciprocal level of interest, but the Soul destroying part for them is they can’t understand why they can feel soooooo in love and he doesn’t feel the same way back.
The love you feel is heavenly and surely this man must be your Soulmate, all your ducks are lined up and your heart says, he’s the one.
I first heard this term on the 6 month Spiritual Development Program that I have just finished based on Sufi principles. It spoke to me and I found there was a book about it — Spiritual Bypassing: When Spirituality Disconnects Us from What Really Matters.
The term basically means that we avoid dealing with our painful feelings with the use of spiritual practises or beliefs.
I have used Spiritual Bypassing, not consciously, I’ve taken that attitude of telling people that something might be their karma, or to not to take something personally, because it’s the other person’s issue.
It all might be true, but, in that moment, it pushes people away, rather than connects them, because what is required in that moment is a sense of bonding, or compassion. Someone might be in pain and needs a hand, not a theory.
We all want to know we aren’t alone, and its far nicer to say you are sorry for something happening to someone rather than analysing why it happened to them.
I am an Intuitive/Healer. My specialities are Past Life Healings, Cord Cutting, Soul Healings, Body Code and Emotion Code healings and more. I also specialises in Relationship Readings.
I am passionate about personal growth and I am extremely passionate about exploring my inner life to the full. This quest is mostly driven by love and often driven by pain.
I’m pretty down to earth and when I say my inner life I don’t mean that I do alot of things like meditation, but more about insight and healing. For my personal life I practise Sufism and this practise also helps me with my clients.
In my quest to heal my own pain I have discovered so much along the way. I suppose that’s also called life. And I always like to share what I’ve learned. So believe me when I say chances are when you come to me for any kind of session – I understand.